What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is the way that you think about yourself. If your self-esteem is low, the thoughts you have about yourself are likely to be negative and you are likely to focus on what you think are your weaknesses.
Having low self-esteem can affect every area of life including work, personal relationships and your ability to socialise. Tackling low self-esteem and boosting positive thinking can really improve your sense of well-being and your mental health.
Here are a few tips you might find helpful.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. You will nearly always home in on their strengths and that will make you feel worse about yourself.
- Stop putting yourself down. Every time you that it will erode your self-esteem.
- Listen out for compliments, learn to accept them and say “thank you.”
- Find an affirmation, a statement such as, “I am confident and competent,” write it down and read it every day.
- Read everything you can about self-esteem, devour books, blogs, websites, etc, and make improving your self-esteem your mission in life.
- Avoid people who are negative and put you down, instead mix with people who are positive, confident and supportive.
- What do you like about yourself, however small? Kindness, friendliness, reliability, etc. note these down.
- Make a list of your past successes, however small, like learning to ride a bicycle or playing a musical instrument. Write these down.
- Try to do more of the things you love, rather than the things you think you ought to do.
- Finally, be true to yourself. Respect yourself, live your life, not a life dictated to you by others.
Begin to make these positive changes today – Good luck.
Until next time, Steve
Steve Clifford Senior Accredited Integrative Psychotherapist. Accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist.