How many times have you opted to stay in your comfort zone rather than try something new? How many things have you not done because you didn’t believe in yourself? Missing opportunities leaves us feeling regret and erodes our sense of self.
I really believe that all of us were born with infinite energy to achieve things. It takes courage to move out of our comfort zone, but growth happens right on the edge not in the middle. Yes, it may feel scary, but by gritting your teeth and facing your fears of not being good enough you can achieve great things.
There are a number of things you can do to begin to make changes and no better time than the present to do so. Go out and do something with others, perhaps joining a local choir or club. Many organisations welcome volunteers no matter how little time or experience you have. Helping other people is not only good for them and a great thing to do; it also makes us happier and healthier too.
Going for a walk or doing some other outdoor activity can help with self-esteem. Research shows that getting active makes us happier as well as being good for our physical health. It instantly improves our mood and can even lift us out of a depression.
Trying out new things or learning a new skill can gives us a sense of accomplishment and helps boost our self-confidence and resilience.
Set yourself some goals for 2016. Something exciting, new, ambitious but realistic. Setting goals and having dreams gives our lives direction and brings a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when we achieve them.
Stop comp airing yourself to others. No-one’s perfect. Dwelling on our flaws, makes it much harder to be happy. Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all is the key to improving our self-belief.
If you’ve ever felt there must be more to life? The answer is, there is! Next time that negative inner voice tries to talk you out of something… say NO.
Make 2016 your year.
Until next time, Steve
Steve Clifford Integrative Psychotherapist. Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist.
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